tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5100747061833336603.post4791538543656272366..comments2023-05-12T01:10:00.164-07:00Comments on Scrum Central: Nails ItRobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02992194211469009236noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5100747061833336603.post-61327006778552455772011-08-02T20:06:00.719-07:002011-08-02T20:06:00.719-07:00Beck, spot on. I may not be a single sister, but a...Beck, spot on. I may not be a single sister, but as a gay, soon to be divorced Mormon, the priesthood lesson on eternal families, the lesson on the law of chastity, the mother's day talks, all are so heteronormative and cookie cutter that I've left church every single week emotional and upset. <br /><br /> Add to that a steady dose of homophobia, whether talking about the "sin of sodom", the talk about prop 8 as christian service from the high councilor, President Hinckley's quote in the manual about "so called gays and lesbians" and I've really had a hard time at church.<br /> <br />So why do I go? Well, I feel God's spirit at church. It's bittersweet though because I also feel rejected, like I don't fit. I want to belong to this community of faith that's an important part of my life. I want to contribute, I want to have fellowship. <br /> <br />But how do you feel part of something that doesn't allow for exceptions? <br /><br /> Some would say there's room for everyone. And I think there is. Or that there should be. <br /><br /> Elder Holland and others condemn violence against gays and lesbians, teasing, but what about the cookie cutter, everyone has to be a certain way doctrine? My bishop and my grandpa actually told me that I need to remarry if I want to be exalted. That's a bitter pill to swallow for me right now. To consider marrying again is hard for any divorced person, but for a gay lds Member? I'm not inventing the pressure I feel to fit into a mold. It's everywhere. <br /><br /> The choice I have is to be ok with not fitting the mold. To be told time and time again that my life and my existence is less than the ideal. It's not an easy choice to stay Mormon and to stay in the church, to confront the conflict every week.Alexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13589508168777037793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5100747061833336603.post-90490016928083819872011-07-14T06:48:40.287-07:002011-07-14T06:48:40.287-07:00This is worthy of framing and posting on the wall ...This is worthy of framing and posting on the wall next to (or on top of) the Proclamation on the Family.<br /><br />The emphasis on the "sanctity" of the family is an abstract ideal that has become so hurtful to so many. In my ward, there have been four of the last five weeks with such emphasis - to the point that single sisters have been fleeing the church house in tears!<br /><br />I know of teachers who are beginning to refuse to teach the same subject matter because of its hurtful content.<br /><br />MOHOH is so correct... there are so many families that the church doesn't approve of.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5100747061833336603.post-64416694524729465562011-07-14T02:29:13.516-07:002011-07-14T02:29:13.516-07:00What I find interesting about Kendall's experi...What I find interesting about Kendall's experience is that he says the church has never hurt him. I'm sure he thinks that's true from his perspective - but my definition of hurt is far different. We're talking about a religion that has prevented him from having any form of a meaningful intimate relationship for over 20 years. He can never get that time back.El Geniohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02801064758712821345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5100747061833336603.post-84237622206329535612011-07-13T12:20:06.450-07:002011-07-13T12:20:06.450-07:00Hear, hear!
The core of the problem is that in pr...Hear, hear!<br /><br />The core of the problem is that in protecting "The Family," an abstract ideal with distinct patriarchal and authoritarian undercurrents, Mormons hurt actual families composed of actual people.<br /><br />And it's not just gay people. Try being a single LDS woman who, without marriage prospects, eventually decides to adopt a child from the foster-care system. Or grandparents who find themselves raising their own grandchildren. Or a straight couple who decide not to have children. Etc. Etc. Etc. There are so many families that Mormons don't approve of.MoHoHawaiihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15086670779804942122noreply@blogger.com