tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5100747061833336603.post486181643525166331..comments2023-05-12T01:10:00.164-07:00Comments on Scrum Central: Rant Number OneRobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02992194211469009236noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5100747061833336603.post-65820027091112837922009-01-28T08:18:00.000-08:002009-01-28T08:18:00.000-08:00Scot, I'm going to start sending all my draft post...Scot, I'm going to start sending all my draft posts to you so you can condense them down to their essentials, like you did this one. You're absolutely right, it's not [just] about the sex, ultimately it's about the spirit.Robhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992194211469009236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5100747061833336603.post-5504721424817794862009-01-28T05:41:00.000-08:002009-01-28T05:41:00.000-08:00I like you on your soap box :-).Last week I wrote ...I like you on your soap box :-).<BR/><BR/>Last week I wrote this in response to an email question and your post reminded me a lot of what I was trying to get at:<BR/><BR/>Sex really is the penny in the currency of a relationship, but that shiny copper attracts the eye, doesn't it? :-) Many gay men in the closet, for example, make the mistake of seeing their orientation as drive for some sort of sexual action, then they can't figure out, when they slip and cave to their cravings, why those cravings are never ultimately satisfied. They never get on to see what their orientation actually is. That's because, at least to me, sexual orientation is about who you're built to be best mentally suited to couple up with, and sexual desire is just one tool in orientation's tool belt.Scothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12350801865113852319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5100747061833336603.post-76699802903022465672009-01-27T16:29:00.000-08:002009-01-27T16:29:00.000-08:00You really don't think it's about sex? I mean not...You really don't think it's about sex? I mean not exclusively about sex, but that sex isn't a contributing factor?<BR/><BR/>As one who doesn't have a clue, I must admit that the actual act of "doing it" has been a source of "ick factor" for me. I don't know what I'm talking about as my head is in the clouds and I see romance and kissing and hugging and cuddling as well as building a relationship and selflessness and charity all wrapped into it - but then getting down and Doing It is still an "ick factor" of sorts - and this has held be back from completely embracing "it" - maybe I'm scared of it, and maybe that's because I don't know how wonderful or different or amazing or complete it would be verses what I know heterosexual relations to be.<BR/><BR/>I'm just saying that the "ick factor" isn't just in group one; it's within this community as well - maybe innocently or naively but still it is here. Maybe it's here because of ignorance or lack of experience.<BR/><BR/>Meanwhile, to say that one's "ick factor" entitles one to create laws against and take away rights and wish ill on others is obviously wrong. <BR/><BR/>The lack of understanding and the willingness to try to understand the other side always ends up always being the fundamental problem.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06159223254071653666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5100747061833336603.post-84371733407939613462009-01-27T13:21:00.000-08:002009-01-27T13:21:00.000-08:00Breathe deeply! Excellent post.Breathe deeply! Excellent post.Bravonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02762204502534599107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5100747061833336603.post-7844797522976030892009-01-27T11:53:00.000-08:002009-01-27T11:53:00.000-08:00"wickedness never was happiness"I don't know why t..."wickedness never was happiness"<BR/><BR/>I don't know why that popped into my mind. But it did.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the rant.Ezrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18249055675517672157noreply@blogger.com